parent /teacher conference

[Deems]

In about 15 mins I have to go to a conference. I asked for it .
Kid hasnt been working up to his honor roll standards since the move.
I held off punishment( even though I wanted to strangle the life outta him) waiting for this meeting with ALL of his teachers,giudance counselor, and this special counselor for new kids from mainland- coping with island life person.

My son isnt disabled or learning incompetent... no real excuse for this drop in grades. No drugs, smoking..nothing like that.

I want to find out is..... is it his medical shit that he was absent for?( its fixed now... transverse intestine block/upper resp and newfound allergies combo. OR was it him not doing the fuckin work?


Ok here's the question I propose to the murder....

if it is in fact his fault ( which it will be either way.... its not like they told him NO to make up work, right?) What should be his punishment?

In his room there is cabletv,vcr/dvd,every game system known to man (except for a WII)and a laptop. yeah, he's waaay underprivledged....Wish I had it that good when I was young...
Im thinking of banning him from his own room and giving him the guest bedroom. Its all frilly girlie shit in there... doily's the works... EXTRA GIRL in there. ( BTW girls still have cooties, but its not gonna last for much longer) .

basically taking away everything for the month that they are on summer vacation. ( in hawaii, they have 11 months of school, not 10 like the mainland) No video/tv/movies for summer break.

What do you think?

[Deems]

OOh i forgot to mention.. he is 14 years.

.. and Im off.....I'll check in after my meeting.

[StoneTheCrow]

In most cases taking things away is a pretty good form of punishment, if you think it would work do it.

[Stormcrow]

He's 14 and girls still have cooties??? I think not Mom. You are being played!

But yeah, I think a whole summer of losing all he is accustomed too entertainment wise should do the trick.

[4nik8]

I like the idea.

Add some summer school work in for good measure...works for punishment and to catch him up on what he's slacked off on.

This means work for you too though...you'd have to grade it.

Plenty of on-line home schooling drills.

Lemme know if you decide to do that and want a few URL's.

[Mrs.S]

I would imagine that this move has been a bit of a life change for the kid. It's not an excuse for not doing the school work, but I don't think that I would take away all of his very short vacation. I think he probably just needs some more time to adjust to the new life. It's never easy being the new kid in town and to a child a parent never really will understand.

[Blood]

Bless his heart, he's just going through puberty and his priorities are out of whack.
Put the move on top of his hormonal changes and you get one confused distracted little boy. I'd try to really talk to him about it and not just jump to the conclusion that he's just being lazy or you'll end up pushing him away and making him worse.

As for the punishment that you've recommended...Why the hell does your kid have all of that crap in his room to begin with? That stuff is not only addicting but distracting as hell. Picture yourself in the same situation. Would you rather go in your room and do homework or would you be tempted to mess around online or finish one more level in whatever video game you've been playing? I don't know about you, but I'd probably opt for the fun addicting stuff rather than do homework.

If i were you I'd find another room for all of that stuff so it's not so tempting for him and you can better monitor when and how much hes using them. Especially the video games...I know they are great for kind of escaping reality and that is the exact opposit that he needs right now or he's going to grow up being a emo faggot like most all of the other victioms of this tecnological age.

[LEFT]

why punish?

why not set a standard to get back on track, encourage, supervise and reward

2 hours a day fancy book learn'n, usual chores and let him go be a kid

(and remind him he is destined for poverty if he doesn't get with it)

[Deems]

Thanks for all the replies....

Im not gonna quote everyone... just try to give an overview....

Why does he have all those video's and crap? he earned them. besides, they werent a hinderance in Virginia. never would have expected it to be tht way now.

Maybe not punish? This is NOT the first time I have heard this. So far, he hasnt. The conference was to find out what was wrong, so we can fix it. Beating a dead horse isnt productive. We now have a plan for next year. We're working towards the future, not livin in what we cant change.

yeah, puberty . He's not thru it yet... but definately somewhere in the middle to beginning of it . Thankfully, girls still have cooties, but they have less and less cooties everyday. he doesnt understand why girls hit him. ( its the 8th grade flirty shit)

Adjusting to hawaii. We HATE it here. None of us like it . he has a special counselor just for this reason. Thats counselor and us (parents) .. we look like a bunch of assholes right about now. he went from principal list/honor roll to WTF!

More education/work during vacation. he will have his EMT before he's 18. he bucks the idea. maybe I'll start him on some of that shit . Why? Because Basic life Support is a good skill to have . It cant do him wrong. he doesnt have to recert his license... just have the skills for when he may need them .he knows more than the average adult already. he lived with medic mom all his life, how could he not pick up a few odds and ends? School type work? His test/quiz grades werent bad. Its the ZERO's that screwed him. It was work not completed, or attempted that made his grades suck. As for school type work, Id have to think about what subject and URL's and crap.. I havent gotten that far.

Already, not much of a punishment.... but he has to babysit. he had to watch a 3 yr old 2 days ago. he wanted me to drive him over to his buddy's house... but NOPE! he had a job to do. My neighbors could use their roof swept, trash put out to the road,and whatever lil jobs they could use help with. half of my neighbors have a deployed spouse.. so finding lil jobs shouldnt be a problem.

Ok, Im gonna finish waking up.... I'll come back once i have both eyes open.

[4nik8]

half of my neighbors have a deployed spouse.. so finding lil jobs shouldnt be a problem.

Chalk this up to my perverted mind but.... hehe...my first experience came from an older woman.

Just sayin....

[Deems]

Chalk this up to my perverted mind but.... hehe...my first experience came from an older woman.

Just sayin....

Some of my neighbors.... the wife is the deployed one...
ha ha .. and Ewwwww